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I wouldn't say it's your fault. Just a mistake made in ignorance. Now you know better. Tis part of learning life.
Trust slowly. That's all I can say. They don't need to know you, and their opinion is little worth (gonna hurt like hell though). Feel people out slowly, no need to rush into friendships.
Warning: your buddies are just enemies that haven't pulled out their knives yet. Watch your back.
Also, don't share, no homework or assignment, none of your belongings. Yes, people will like you when they get to use you easily. But you'll get nothing out of that relationship; they're leeches. Some leeches are toxic (only know you when they need you, hostile when they don't).
A good exercise is to sit quietly and observe the group dynamics around you. You'll learn to spot leeches, back-stabbers, plants (yes, some people befriend you to get info or to screw you over), and sheep (some just need a group to feel safe).
Keep your ears on the ground. You'll hear rumours; those come in handy too.
Friendly everywhere and friends with no one. When they laugh at you, make sure you get the last laugh. Keep your cards hidden, let them only see your success. That was my MO. Also trust your gut! If you didn't like them the 1st time you saw them leave them alone.
Oh yeah trusting people to fast or too easily is quite a big flaw of mine. So that is something I need to work on!
Thank you for the tip?
I know I shouldn't but I feel like I'm being a shitty person when I don't share that stuff. Luckily it's not happening as much due to my grades dropping a bit.
Ohh I see. So observing things a bit more? I think I can do that. Also for the rumours thing...I have so so many. People like telling me shit I have no idea why.
"Friendly everywhere and friends with no one. When they laugh at you, make sure you get the last laugh. Keep your cards hidden, let them only see your success" I like that. Though doing that seems like it might make life harder with forming bonds and connections with people.
Thank you for all the advice though! I really really appreciate it
Good, keep working on it. Slow to trust will save you headaches later.
You're welcome.
Yeah, not sure how you got guilt tripped into being subservient. But not sharing does not make you a shitty person. If it's too hard not to share at all, pick and choose carefully who you do share with. But no homework or assignments! (You're helping make shitty adults).
Yes, observe like a hunter watching prey. Careful with people telling you shit, they want to go say "Mira said". Don't give an opinion on what they tell you. "oh, wow." "For real?" "That's interesting." "that's sad." Short, curt answers. Cuz if they telling you shit free of charge, your words are making it to the public domain.
It won't be a problem in forming bonds. It just lets you feel people out. The more comfortable you feel with them, the more you can trust them little by little. It maybe a little taxing on you personally. It's like wearing a mask. I was the "gamer girl" in school, more interested in playing than school. But I was always in the top 10 of my class. It's better to have 3 close lifetime friends than 10 potentially back-stabbing friends.
You're welcome. Teenage years suck! It's hella stressful, and you're still working out you, on top of school, parents, and friends. But it's also where you can make some of the best memories too.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLQ0biK-ZgA
oki I will!!!
I can probally guess how I've ended up like that. Alright, so it's kind like...helping them not become shitty adults. That makes it much easier to think about.
Oh okay. That is sooo different from what I've been doing. Or well it depends on the person. Like this one girl told me this one thing that was like above and beyond shitty and I gave her a sort of massive reaction. If you knew you would have too though.
Ohhh okay! Yes I do that quite a bit already. I have two really close out-of-school friends and maybe one or two close-school friends. I'm a "nerdy" kid. Instead of going outside I sit in the library and get my work done. But yes. Backstabbing friends are the absolute worst.
Thank you again!! I've kinda just continuously been told I'm overreacting about things be hard. It's nice to hear someone actually say it sucks.
Ohh that's a good song. My mom really likes it. I also had to do it for house music.
Clam down. You don't need to react to everything, no matter how out there it is. And sometimes you have to hear both sides before forming an opinion.
Nice. Wear your nerds with pride! Good habit, library time. Good Good.
Yeah, sometimes adults forget how shitty it was to be a teen. You're going to overreact in the moment and then 10yrs later you're gonna be like..pfft dumb teens, that shit is so easy to navigate. Don't judge the past by the present's rules! Don't judge your past actions too hard as you age, just do better.
Nice! Yes, it's a good song. Good lessons for teen years confusion.
Yeahhhh. true. It's always good to hear both sides. After all someone could be lying.
Yep! It helps me catch up and study more for exams soon
Alright.
when i was a freshman i thought i would never find friends but now I accidentally found an awesome, diverse group of friends. I suggest joining a club because there defo gonna be people with the same interests